Phyllis her life .

     

Phyllis, always felt protective to her younger brother Reg,he never married he suffered from eperleptic fits,he was in later life prescribedmedication which made his condition  more managable.Reg frequently came to stay with Phyllis and Ike and the, children.

Un fortunately Reg, died alone in his flat, the police came and broke the news to Phyllis and Ike, who sadly had to go toNottingham to identify him and arrange the funeral and close up his flat. Phyllis was understandably, very, upset for many years at the loss of her brother ,they had been very close as young children especially losing their Mother at such an early age .Phyllis’s other two older sisters had also died by this time. It was a lonely thought, she was the only one left from the family, and there was no one left in Nottingham, though her nieces kept in touch, and visited often, and in later life Phyllis would visit them.

Meanwhile Phyllis’s own children had grown up, got jobs, married, Phyllis now had two sons in law Mick and Pete who adored her, had children, Janet had two sons and two daughters, and Jean had a son and a daughter, John and his wife Julia never had any children .Sadly Phyllis’s son in law Mick (Janet’s husband ) died aged forty four.

Phyllis and her daughters would take the children away on caravan holidays, which she really enjoyed.

Throughout her life Phyllis had enjoyed fairly good health, Ike who had smoked all his life developed emphysema, and she looked after him until he died aged sixty four.She was living in a council house with three bedrooms and a big garden and because a bungalow was available, she moved, helped by her family, though she found it all a bit overwhelming, coming so soon after Ikes death ,she wished she had had more time .

She did eventually settle and came to love her little bungalow, which her family helped decorate and make new curtains and buy new carpets for.

Phyllis was always a very private person, still living for her family, she read enjoyed selecting books from the library, knitted and enjoyed television, she enjoyed being a member of the Women’s Institute, in Kings Cliffe,She still visited her own family ,adored her Grandchildren , who all visited her reguraly

As the years went by Phyllis developed back problems and then a thyroid problem was diagnosed ,she became as time passed more and more confused ,she was spending more and more time staying with her daughters ,until it was decided as  she wasn’t coping at all well, it was time for her have Twenty four hour care ,a very nice care home was found ,where she spent her last days ,with the family visiting regularly ,and taking her out ,and to their homes .

She developed pneumonia in December 1990, she seemed to be recovering, but on the day after Boxing Day, the Doctor broke the news to Janet that she wasn’t expected to recover, Janet rang John and Jean.

Janet and Jean, then stayed with their mother for three days and nights helping with her personal care, gently talking, singing and praying for her with the others visiting her during this time, it was a Friday tea time, she slipped away, whilst her loving heart broken daughters were with her. She had joined her Mother and Father, her sisters and brother, and of course her beloved Ike.

 The day thou gavest Lord has ended, The darkness falls at thy behest; To thee our morning hymns ascended, Thy praise shall sanctify our rest.

  

 We only get one Mother, ours was a jewel                   Jan xx