Saturday, 28 January 2006

Phyllis her life .

     

Phyllis, always felt protective to her younger brother Reg,he never married he suffered from eperleptic fits,he was in later life prescribedmedication which made his condition  more managable.Reg frequently came to stay with Phyllis and Ike and the, children.

Un fortunately Reg, died alone in his flat, the police came and broke the news to Phyllis and Ike, who sadly had to go toNottingham to identify him and arrange the funeral and close up his flat. Phyllis was understandably, very, upset for many years at the loss of her brother ,they had been very close as young children especially losing their Mother at such an early age .Phyllis’s other two older sisters had also died by this time. It was a lonely thought, she was the only one left from the family, and there was no one left in Nottingham, though her nieces kept in touch, and visited often, and in later life Phyllis would visit them.

Meanwhile Phyllis’s own children had grown up, got jobs, married, Phyllis now had two sons in law Mick and Pete who adored her, had children, Janet had two sons and two daughters, and Jean had a son and a daughter, John and his wife Julia never had any children .Sadly Phyllis’s son in law Mick (Janet’s husband ) died aged forty four.

Phyllis and her daughters would take the children away on caravan holidays, which she really enjoyed.

Throughout her life Phyllis had enjoyed fairly good health, Ike who had smoked all his life developed emphysema, and she looked after him until he died aged sixty four.She was living in a council house with three bedrooms and a big garden and because a bungalow was available, she moved, helped by her family, though she found it all a bit overwhelming, coming so soon after Ikes death ,she wished she had had more time .

She did eventually settle and came to love her little bungalow, which her family helped decorate and make new curtains and buy new carpets for.

Phyllis was always a very private person, still living for her family, she read enjoyed selecting books from the library, knitted and enjoyed television, she enjoyed being a member of the Women’s Institute, in Kings Cliffe,She still visited her own family ,adored her Grandchildren , who all visited her reguraly

As the years went by Phyllis developed back problems and then a thyroid problem was diagnosed ,she became as time passed more and more confused ,she was spending more and more time staying with her daughters ,until it was decided as  she wasn’t coping at all well, it was time for her have Twenty four hour care ,a very nice care home was found ,where she spent her last days ,with the family visiting regularly ,and taking her out ,and to their homes .

She developed pneumonia in December 1990, she seemed to be recovering, but on the day after Boxing Day, the Doctor broke the news to Janet that she wasn’t expected to recover, Janet rang John and Jean.

Janet and Jean, then stayed with their mother for three days and nights helping with her personal care, gently talking, singing and praying for her with the others visiting her during this time, it was a Friday tea time, she slipped away, whilst her loving heart broken daughters were with her. She had joined her Mother and Father, her sisters and brother, and of course her beloved Ike.

 The day thou gavest Lord has ended, The darkness falls at thy behest; To thee our morning hymns ascended, Thy praise shall sanctify our rest.

  

 We only get one Mother, ours was a jewel                   Jan xx

        

16 comments:

wldconnie said...

It is fascinating to read about your mother's life. My mum is 85 and still all there mentally but she cannot walk far, her eyesight is bad and she is partially deaf but she is bright as a button. I visit frequently and I love her to bits. I know she cannot last forever but I dread the day she goes. Love Conniex

jlocorriere05 said...

I've really enjoyed your mum's life story. You can see her personality shining through in the photos. Shame about Reg dying, my daughter developed epilepsy when she was fourteen and died during a fit at the age of twenty three in 1992. I'm glafd your mum had you and Jean there at the end, thanks for sharing this lovely story. Jeannette xx

mckaygillian said...

Lovely story Jan!! Thanks for sharing it with us.  Gill xx

nedmoh said...

Jan , Thank you for telling Mums Life story so well,it bought back lots of  happy and sad memories, like you said we were truly blessed to have her as our Mother. By the time I got to the end I had tears running down my face , especially reading the words"The day thou gavest Lord has ended"..........With Love Jeanxxx

sdrogerson said...

thank you  for sharing all of this..........

madcobug said...

You did a good job telling your Mom's life story.The pictures were great. Helen

mllevl said...

Beautiful story of your loving family but sad too....loss always is sad. The rhythm of life I suppose....thanks for telling it.
Eve

nightmaremom said...

hugs, thank you so much for sharing.  What a tribute!
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labdancer51 said...

That was a beautiful story of your dear Mum`s life Jan.  Thanks for sharing it with us.  It is truly a wonderful tribute to ler.  :o)

Sandra xxxx

jaymact1 said...

Hi Jan, you made a lovley job and it has been lovely reading your dear Mum's story. Your should print it off the way AOL has been you never know what is going to happen next and i would hate for you to loose it. Love Joan.

ally123130585918 said...

Oh Jan you had me in tears - Lyn just came in to talk to me and I had a big lump in my throat and couldn't answer her....What a lovely Tribute you pay Phyllis...what a wonderful Mother.........Ally

rachealcarol said...

A beautiful story Jan and told with much love, thank you for sharing it, it's been a pleasure and a privelage to read. Rache xx

haileen2003 said...

What a lovely 'Tribute' to your Mum, I read it with tear filled eyes...
I shall visit my Mum at the Nursing Home tomorrow (Sunday) and she will be 99 on Monday, she is so alert,very proud, but very disabled, she looked after my Father with Emphysema, until he died aged just 60.
Love the Hymn -'The day thou gave us Lord is ended'
No 5 my favourite picture!
Aileen...X

faircolleen said...

You and I were suffering a great loss round about the same time Jan. . my Mum died January 1990.
Awww. . God Bless Reg,he was much loved by Phyllis and the family.How the love comes shining through in this entry Jan. . . more please. . the photos are great.

jmoqueen said...

What a beautiful graphic :-)  It's lovely to know that Phyllis had such a big family and that everyone loved and cared for her.  Thank you for sharing your memories with us.

icklemisssexpot said...

Thanks for sharing Jan...It's a lovely tribute to your mum :o)  Caff xxx