Friday, 19 October 2007

Farewell sweet man

 

Aubrey,Such a nice man .....

I have finally caught up with all my alerts, I had masses! And the situation wasn’t helped by lost entry’s then back they came minus comments oh, you know! Well by the time I had read and commented I didn’t have the time or the inclination to post myself, so where shall I begin? 

Oh yes a week last Monday, I got a phone call from the surgery asking if I would like a flue jab? Yes please says I, What about Friday the receptionist asked, oh no I am going to a funeral, well could you come this afternoon? Maurice dropped me off, on his way to work, I had the flue jab in one arm and the pneumonia one in the other arm, then spent the night tossing and turning from one sore arm muscle to the other! I felt very unwell the next couple of days? I know, I know it’s not a live vaccine! (I used to give my residents all this assurance!)Hmm coincidence or what? Any way I’m done now, the flu jab for this year and the pneumonia for life.

Fortunately I was better by Friday (a week ago today) and was able to attend the funeral of my late husband Mick’s Brother Aubrey, What a bitter sweet day that was, the weather was kind, It was so sad to say goodbye to Aubrey, he was always so kind and reliable, everyone who knew him spoke well of him, and as well as the  family, who all love him dearly , the church was absolutely packed extra chairs were needed ,and it was a testament to how much he will be missed by so many people .And my heart breaks for his dear wife Sheila ,who has been by his side for fifty five years ,Mother and Father  in law ,had ten children ,three girls and seven boys (We were the seven brides for seven brothers )The eldest brother is dead and my Mick ,now Aubrey ,but the rest of the family who could attended ,it was so nice as it often is on these occasions when everyone gets together ,The family had been brought up next door but one to the church ,and played a big part in their lives ,Mother in Law cleaned the church ,and as each son was old enough ,he would light the boiler in the stoke house on a Saturday night making sure the church was warm for the service next day ,When Mick and I were courting ,after the Saturday night dance ,we would go round to the back of the church , in the dark ,trees creaking ,to light that wretched boiler !And Peter the brother younger than Aubrey and his best man at Aubrey  and Sheila’s wedding  ,who did the eulogy spoke ,of all these things ,how they rang the church bells  pumped the organ ,before electricity, and sang in the choir .

In the first years of our marriage Mick and I and our then two little sons lived next door to the church one side and to my dear in laws  the other ,and looking back what happy days ,so long ago. sigh.. As usual lots of love Jan xx

 

Thankyou Debbie for the tag xx

55 comments:

jeanno43 said...

So sorry to hear of the loss of Aubrey.  He sounds a lovely man.  As for flu jabs the surgery phoned us two days ago and said we could go along on Saturday morning.  I have decided not to.  I know they say it does not make you ill but believe me each time I have had them they have made me ill for days afterwards and what with my back and other problems, I cannot afford anything else to come along and keep me from my hospital appointment.  So I will have to take the chance.  Ho hum, the devil or the deep blue sea.

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chat2missie said...

Sorry about your loss, Aubrey sounds like a great man.
Missie

dklars said...

Sorry for your loss, Jan.  I haven't had my flu jab yet this year.  The year I got the pneumonia jab ... I got pnuemonia six months later!  Never had it before, and hope I never get it again!  ~~Kath~~

astoriasand said...

Aw Jan those cottages reminded me of my dear departed Aunts,who lived to be 93 .She was like my second Mother.Well she replaced my Mother if you know what I mean when I lost my mother.How many memories I had there too.I feel deeply for you realy I do.What a great send off Aubrey had.My sister lost her hubby last year being together almost the same legnth of time.It is painstaking,for her.She will never be the same I don't think.o I do feel for the ones left alone it is oh so sad.You  know what it's like as you have experianced it.I am sorry this happened for you Aubreys parting, at a time you wern't feeling too good yourself.Prayers being said for you and Aubreys family.Thankyou for sharing the pics they are beautiful cottages.The pisture is so good of all three of you too.Smart as ever OUR lADY OF THE BLOG .Oh! for the good old days.They say they are better times now,but knowone will ever convince me they are.I have realy enjoyed reading all about your byegone days.Take Care God Bless Kath
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marainey1 said...

My sympathies to you at the loss of your BIL .  It's so difficult to loose those we love, yet we know that they will be in a better place.  It's always good to see all the relatives at these gatherings.  Some one said we gather to celebrate the life of the one we lost.  It's true I suppose as we talk about old times and remember those no longer with us.   Good you had your shots as the season will soon be on us.  I will get mine week after next.  I have to say that since I started getting them, I've been healthier all winter long. 'On Ya' - ma

cornwalldreckly said...

Hi Jan, I had vanishing posts too, what happened?  I know what you mean about the flu jab, I went to the doctors for something totally different and I came out with the flu jab in one arm and a tetanus jab in the other - it still hurts!

cayasm said...

What lovely bittersweet memories, thats what keeps us all going when we loose someone close.

jaymact1 said...

So sorry to hear of your loss its always hard. Glad you are over your flu jab I go a week on Saturday they do us in batches here. This is the first free one I will get as I am 65 in december but have had it done privately the last two winters with not working I don't think I am as imune as I used to be.  Have a good weekend. Love Joan.

blpltt said...

Precious memories, Jan.  Saying goodbye after a full life is a sort of celebration, and a coming-together for far-flung members of the family.  Not all bad.
Martin and I had the flu jab yesterday, when he had his warfarin check.  We were to have gone to a clinic tomorrow,(yawn), but the nurse very kindly saved us the extra journey, plus a precious hour when we can be doing something else.
Bunny xx

sugarsweet056 said...

You stil have your memories, may he RIP, prayers for all the family.
I still need to get my flu shot, TY for reminder.
Hugs,
Sug

frdbrow7 said...

That was a lovely story Jan, and a sweet cottage, did that fountain supply the water for the cottages in days gone?

Yes I my last post vanished too, Jean im'd me to say that the alert had arrived but it wouldn't open.  aol eh? tut tut

So sorry to hear of your loss Jan, I too had a funeral this week, of an old work colleague.

I had my pneumonia jab a couple of weeks ago and BOTH my arms ached for about a week lol!

I now have to have my annual flu jab, had no after-effects whatsoever, last year. :-D

ttfn
Freda

faveanti said...

I forgot my flu jab appointment last Sat. so finally got t on Tuesday, having eaten required amount of humble pie with the receptionist!  Apparently I don't qualify for Pneumonia jab yet (not had enough birthdays)
Angie, xx

emabecmar said...

so sorry about your families loss. my prayers are with everyone. what beautiful memories you have. hope you have a nice day. ((((hugs)))))
Cindy

oddb0dkins said...

Sorry to hear about your brother in law Jan. Condolences to you and the family. Hope those happy memories bring you some comfort.
B. x

ally123130585918 said...

Jan so sorry to hear of your loss ~ Aubrey sounded like such a good man ~ my deepest sympathies to his family ~
Glad you got your flu jab out of the way and the pneumonia one as well ~ sorry they were so painful ~
Loved the pictures of the cottage's they look such a homely place ~ Allyx

madcobug said...

I am so sorry to hear of your BIL's death. May God be with his family and friends. Ken and I have already had our flu shots. I have never had the pneumonia shot.
Love that graphic for today. Hugs, Helen

pharmolo said...

I'm sorry to hear of Aubrey's death, Jan. Wishing you and the family strength at this sad time.

brck753 said...

Sad day indeed. Lovely pics the cottages are really pretty.
Debbie
xxx

jennyp51 said...

So pleased you have good memories to help you in your lose.
Jenny <><

hugsdoodlewacky said...

((((((((((((((((((((HUGSTOYOU))))))))))))))))))))))I am sorry for your loss,but you have great memories,always with you.Have a nice day.

aniracj said...

Wonderful memories Jan, to be cherished and treasured. Love, Joan

upthecreek380 said...

Hello from California, USA

Was perusing the internet and started reading. Interesting how the other side lives.
My profile?
I am old ugly, cripple and just a tad excentric. I live within 1 hour drive to Los Angeles in small mountain community in the San Bernardino National Forest.
My Claim to fame?
I was a public servant that had filed a lawsuit in California Supreme Court against a Tranist agency that gave away over 10million US dollars as a gift to 400 County Commission Employees without legislative approval. To make the long story short Justice Fumiko Wasserman dismissed the case after many years of appeal without the full disclosure to the public.
Lesson Learned?
Corruption in the USA starts at the top.
"Blessed are the whistleblowers for you will be unemployed"
USA Government does not retaliate (tongue in cheek).

lanurseprn said...

I'm sorry you lost him. I enjoyed your pictures and the memories you shared.
Have a good day,
Pam

rachealcarol said...

Aww he sounds a real down to earth gentleman Jan.  You've some lovely memories of him to keep with you.  Hope the arms are ok now. Rache

labdancer51 said...

How sad that you have lost a dear brother-in-law Jan, He would have been proud of this lovely tribute to his memory. Isn`t it strange that so many people who have the flu jab are poorly afterwards?  Some coincidence eh! Take care.

Love Sandra xxxx

jlocorriere05 said...

Aubrey sounded and looked a dear man. I know the whole family will have lovely memeories of him to last their lifetime. I hope Sheila will cope, it must be hard after that many years to lose your partner. Have a good weekend! Jeannette xx  

plieck30 said...

A nice tribute to your brother-in-law. Such great memories you wrote about. You reminded me I need to start looking for a flu shot. Paula

redpoppy007 said...

pretty place. I wish they would fix the water pump. That would really be pretty as well.

jckfrstross said...

have a good weekend:) sorry about your BIL passing

Deb

nightmaremom said...

so sorry for your loss my friend.. sending hugs and good thoughts your way
hugs
d

wldconnie said...

So sorry you have lost another link to your husband. It is awful getting older and folks popping their clogs. That is how it is gonna be now we are in our 60s. Still mmakes you appreciate being alive and having plenty to live for. Make every day count I say! Love Conniexx

lindapaterson177 said...

Sorry for you loss Jan it`s a sad time. take care
luv bella xx

nedmoh said...

Hi Jan ,a lovely tribute to Aubrey,like you said he would have been so proud knowing just how many people cared for him .It was lovely to see the photos you'd taken of the house  where you and Mick lived ,brought back lots of memories ,when I stayed with you .Glad the flu jab didn't have a lasting affect,Pete had his at work last week .Nice to see the photo of you with Derek and Kate ........With my love ...Jeanxxxx

egre328 said...

So sorry for your loss, it is always a sad time.  Eileenx

beckiepainton said...

Aol has been a pain in the arse of late, Hope things are brighter for you, BECKIE X

mariealicejoan said...

Wonderful Tribute to Aubrey Jan.  I loved reading your memories as well.  Hasn't AOL been a big pain this week!  
Marie
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seraphoflove9001 said...

Oh, that was a lovely tribute!
Lisa

cacklinrosie101 said...

This must have brought back so many memories for you, Jan.  I'm glad you felt well enough to attend.  The flu shot didn't bother me this year but I've gotten symptoms in past years.  Aubrey looked like one sweet guy.  Love xx Chris

dwhee70041 said...

Jan,
Lovely pictures, thanks for sharing.  I'm glad you got through the shots.  Mine are next week.
Smiles,
David

zoepaul6968 said...

oh how sad hun,my condolencies xxxx zoe xx
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faircolleen said...

what a lovely tribute to Aubrey. . . nice name too.I love the cottages,would love to live in one of those.You look lovely with your daughter and son Jan.

am4039 said...

RIP Aubrey, he sounded like a wonderful man. Good for you for catching up with all your alerts. I know how hard that can be. LOL.

funnyface0s0 said...

Hello Jan - a very sad entry, but how wonderful the memories can be.
Take care of yourself,
Love Jaynee xx

astra1547 said...

Hi Jan...

So sorry to hear of your loss, but pleased that you have fond memories...love the pics.

Astra!
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siennastarr said...

Sorry to hear about your BIL, Jan..   Memories..   boy they sure can stir your heart in more ways than one..

Blessings and love
jackie

irisclyde said...

I went to 2 funerals around this time last year. Always sad but part of life I guess and bringing back memories.
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kategshepherd said...

What a lovely tribute to my Uncle Aubrey. I will always remember he helped sort out Dad's funeral etc and also Nanas when she died. In one way, it was great to see our huge family again which was tinged with sadness. Somehow I feel like another piece of my dad has gone forever. Love you mum.

tellsg said...

Aubrey looked a really nice man.  It was lovely to see the pictures of your old homes and read a bit of your family history but I understand it must have been a very bittersweet day for you and I feel for you.  I have given up on the flu injections and have been much healthier (apart from this year) since I stopped having them and oooh the sore arm each time.  Hugs, Tells x

lattedah711 said...

Trick or Treat!  Stop by and say BOO!
http://journals.aol.com/lattedah711/lattedah/entries/2007/10/27/trick-or-treat-thru-j-land/1092      Tracy

kaydeejay5449 said...

What a sweet tribute to Aubrey.  He sounds like such a dear man.  I'm sorry for your loss and for his family.  You are so lucky to have had him in your life.
Hugs, Kathy

phil31 said...

Sorry to hijack your journal but I couldn't find an email address.  

You do realize your friend Lisa is plagiarizing Stephanie Klein?  How low does someone need to stoop to allow you to comment on a plagiarized post and not let you know she didn't author it?

http://journals.aol.com/seraphoflove9001/Pleasedonttakelifeforgranted/entries/2007/10/26/the-way-it-is...../3658?numComment=all

http://stephanieklein.blogs.com/greek_tragedy/2007/10/imagine.html#comments

rachealcarol said...

Helloooo :) I'm just passing, tapping on the window to see if you're ok........ Rache

gotomaria said...

Sorry to hear of your loss.  Hope all is well.  Maria

kaydeejay5449 said...

Thank you for stopping by my journal and for you very sweet comment.  Hope all is fine with you.  Take good care, Jan!
Hugs, Kathy

lindachapmanuk said...

aw that was a sad entry Jan but a lovely tribute to Aubrey...sorry for filling up your inbox, I mentioned I had become a binge blogger and Jeanette (travels) says Im also a binge commenter, but I hate to miss anything! Linda x x